US losing to China in the global dating game
By: Rachel Marsden
VANCOUVER, British Columbia -- The U.S. won over the hearts and minds of 
other nations in the Cold War era because they looked America up and down and 
decided they wanted a piece of what was on offer — namely, its wallet, er, 
“values.” But now, as the U.S. resorts to threatening allies to maintain the 
status quo in its relationships, it should ask why it lost its mojo to the 
benefit of a new cash-flashing suitor, China, and how it might get back to 
winning hearts and minds in the geopolitical dating game.
Imagine being a European country straddled between two potential suitors: China 
and America. You open the door to find U.S. Secretary of State Mike Pompeo (who 
swung through Europe earlier this month on a clear mission) standing there 
ranting about the other guy (China) and threatening you not to buy his 5G 
technology or make any big economic commitments to him or to his main wingman, 
Russia. Pompeo threatens to make you pay for playing economic footsie with 
Russia, who’s helping you complete the Nord Stream 2 pipeline that would serve 
as your Amazon Prime of gas delivery, making it cheap and accessible.
You’re annoyed that this America guy is pretending to be some kind of white 
knight, wanting to save you from Chinese spying when you know he’s been tracking 
your every move for years through his own spying operation. You think that he’s 
a hypocrite for unapologetically continuing to spy on you under the guise of 
protecting you, all while warning you about China’s potential to do the same. 
Then he threatens to stop talking to you — or at least to stop sharing 
intelligence and information with you — if you insist on diversifying your 
relationships outside of those he approves.
You ease him out the door and hope that he doesn’t decide to spite you for your 
lack of subservience by enacting what he calls his “maximum pressure” diplomatic 
strategy, which involves sanctions or tariffs.
Upon arriving home from what should have been called his European Insecurity 
Tour, Pompeo was still prattling on about China.
“The kind of engagement we have been pursuing has not brought the kind of change 
inside of China that President Nixon had hoped to induce,” Pompeo said.
News flash: China is open for business with the entire world — which is exactly 
what Nixon wanted.
“Taking the long view, we simply cannot afford to leave China forever outside 
the family of nations, there to nurture its fantasies, cherish its hates and 
threaten its neighbors,” Nixon wrote in a 1967 article titled “Asia after Viet 
Nam.”
Don’t hate the player, hate the game. But of course, the global rules of that 
game were established by the U.S.
As America’s dominance in the global dating game has waned, it has shifted from 
seduction to threats. When you have an angry suitor ranting on your lawn about 
burning down your house, one solution is to befriend a big dude who can tell the 
nut job in your front yard to take a hike. That’s the role China is now playing 
for countries on the U.S. hit list, such as Iran and Venezuela, who are only 
incurring America’s ire because regime-change attempts haven’t as successful as 
they were just a decade or two ago.
Instead of complaining, the U.S. should be determining what China is doing right 
and what can be learned from Chinese success in forging new relationships. “What 
does this guy have that I don’t?” should be the crux of U.S. soul-searching.
A favorite refrain of jilted lovers is, “You’re going to regret leaving me for 
that guy. It’s going to end in heartbreak.” That has been the U.S. warning to 
countries getting involved with China. America claims there’s a hidden cost that 
will eventually come due. Perhaps. But China is fulfilling the role of Mr. 
Right-for-Right-Now.
The best-case scenario for every nation is the international relationship 
dynamic favored by former French President General Charles de Gaulle — a 
geopolitical open relationship that ensures long-term independence from any one 
suitor. Keep them all competing for your attention. Refuse to shut the door on 
any one of them, but never commit entirely to any of their agendas. China seems 
willing to play that game, while the U.S. isn’t.
“My way or the highway,” isn’t going to work in an era where you’re no longer 
the only playboy. The era of multipolarity is here, and a gal — er, country — 
has far more options than she did back in the latter part of the 20th century, 
when it was just America vs. that Soviet guy whose checks kept bouncing.
COPYRIGHT 2020 RACHEL MARSDEN